What’s the Difference? Advisor, Coach, Consultant, Mentor

Solomon said in Ecclesiastes there is nothing new under the sun; life is full of cycles. It is amazing when each generation feels they have discovered something new and exciting. Occasionally, an older generation watches a trend come back around and chuckles at the younger generation’s excitement of what they discovered only for them to find out it is not new. In our present day of electronic media, the younger crowd is often disappointed when they find out their favorite television show or movie is a remake from just a few decades ago. Or the song they hear on a commercial or theme to their favorite show or movie was written when their grandparents were their age.

This “everything old is new again” idea also affects our churches. Today you can find videos and online articles sharing the latest and best new ideas for ministry. There has been a renewed interest in discipleship in the church with an increased interest in focusing on those in ministry. The emphasis of being a Barnabas to Paul and a Paul to Timothy while encouraging Timothy to teach others is the “new” thing in ministry leadership. Words like mentoring, coaching, consulting, and advising are found everywhere. This is not a new idea, but if not understood from a true biblical perspective, it can be done to the detriment of the church.

Worldly philosophy is penetrating our churches at a record pace. Understanding what is needed to truly disciple not only church members but also to build those in the ministry is needed today just as it always has been. If you look up the words mentor, coach, consultant, and advisor you will find that they are all synonyms. However, there are specific nuances to each word that one must understand in order to see the differences. Having a clear understanding of the differences of each word and using them in discipleship can really be the new/old invention you are looking for to transform your ministry.

Advisor: One with knowledge sharing with another. They ask questions for understanding.

Wanting to ensure a new generation is well-trained and equipped for the ministry, those who are experienced often give advice to the younger or less experienced. Advice is important when helping someone facing a specific ministry issue. The nuance for advice is that the person receiving the advice decides whether to follow it or not. In order to disciple the next generation, we do need to give advice, but we need to be prepared and not be surprised when they do not follow it. Sometimes, someone simply will not learn unless it is from experience. This may be why so many give up on the young ones and blame them for not listening. If Barnabas was there simply to give Paul advice, he would have quit early. Barnabas encouraged Paul for years before Paul began having a great impact on the world. If Paul only advised Timothy, Paul would not have spoken with confidence in his last instructions to Timothy prior to his own finishing the course. Helping the next generation, while fulfilling the commission given by Christ, is not a short-term project.

Coach: Developing the skills and abilities that another possesses. They ask questions so they can know the one being coached knows the answer.

Some look at helping the younger generation and those less experienced as being a coach to them. Coaching seems easy from the bleachers. After a play or a game, outsiders pontificate of what they would have done and often criticize the coach and the player. However, coaching is more difficult than you know. What makes a good coach? A coach does not need to possess expertise in all aspects of the game. A coach does not even need to have the skills and abilities to do what they are coaching someone else to do. To play the game of golf on the professional level, you must be in top physical and mental condition. A golfer must have a consistent swing, which includes a consistent body stance and movement. Those who master all the needed elements become world renown and make a lot of money. Do these skills come naturally? Basic skills? Maybe. However, to develop those skills to greatness it takes a good coach. A coach helps the athlete to develop behaviors that will achieve the desired results.

If we are going to disciple the next generation of leaders, we need to learn to coach. We need to observe behaviors that need to change to obtain the desired results. Coaching encourages the person to see negative behaviors causing issues and show them the changes needed to achieve the desired results. If a golfer wants to consistently hit the golf ball centered down the fairway 250 yards away, then the behaviors of the stance, swing, and club must all be correct every time they hit the ball. As a coach, yelling at them for doing it wrong or giving advice on how to do better will not work. A coach must help the player identify and address each behavior causing the wrong result and help the person change the behaviors keeping them from the desired result. Even if the person hits the ball one time 250 yards in the fairway it does not mean the coach can stop coaching. The desired outcome is consistency. As coaches in ministry we are not giving advice, we are investing our time and wisdom to help develop the gifts and abilities God has given those we are to help. This is a long-term, on-going process. However, coaches do not dictate actions, or demand compliance.

Consultant: One having the expertise telling the another what to do. They ask questions to determine the willingness of the one to listen and do what they have been told.

From time to time we may be called on to consult with a person or ministry. People often confuse coaching and consulting. These two are mutually exclusive to each other; they are not the same or simultaneous in action. Coaching directs one to a specific behavior to see a desired outcome. Consulting points out inefficiencies or inconsistencies and provides clear direction as to the task ahead. Consulting demands experience in the field in which they are declaring changes to be made. There are areas I would qualify as a consultant and there are areas I would not. Simply having some experience in an area does not qualify someone to be a consultant. A consultant in ministry could only truly consult on areas in which they are trained, experienced, and fluent. A coach is one who can diagnose the behaviors needed to do the task, develop the person’s skills by being their accountability to the task, while discussing or debriefing others on how they are doing in reaching those goals.

Mentor: One with wisdom sharing their life to another to add wisdom to the mentee. They ask questions to go deep into the life and heart of the person to bring growth of life.

I can give advice that you can take or leave. I can coach by taking the time to encourage you to do what is needed to accomplish the task. In some areas, I can consult with pinpoint accuracy as to what needs to be done to resolve an issue. However, if I am going to be the one who is biblically discipling, then I need to mentor those who are coming behind me. Mentoring may include giving advice, coaching, and consulting but it requires a level high above these three areas. The dictionary definition of mentoring is the act of advising or training another, especially a younger colleague. When you look further into the definition, as used in the business world, we find that there is the added part of establishing a long-term personal relationship. Mentoring involves a long-term commitment by both parties to see a desired outcome. This outcome is not merely in one area of need or level of learning.

This outcome is in the full and complete level of life. Paul mentored Timothy until his (Paul’s) death. The desire of Paul was that Timothy would do the same for someone else. The mentor relationship allows for deep penetrating involvement in another’s life. This requires that the mentor be equipped to take on the intense involvement in the life of another. All the mentee’s life struggles become yours. All their deep burdens become yours. This is when the full understanding of the scriptures of weeping with those who weep and rejoicing with those who rejoice come into play. This relationship requires that the mentee allow a mentor to become deeply involved in their lives. To be in a mentor to mentee relationship requires commitment. The commitment includes complete openness to accountability. There is a commitment of time, energy, and a passion to see the desired outcome completed. Both must be committed to this with no reservations for a true mentorship to work.

A mentor from time to time may give advice, which means they acknowledge that the mentee has the option to take or leave the advice. A mentor may do some coaching to help correct certain behaviors in order to achieve desired results. A mentor may have expertise in a specific area to consult on what you are doing wrong and make the corrections. But, if they are going to be a mentor, they will be passionate on seeing the mentee finish the task. The mentee will see all of these helps coming from someone who is as passionate about every aspect of their lives as they are. If being mentored is more than you are looking for then continue to simply seek advice from time to time or find someone’s input on what you are doing wrong or look for someone to tell you what to do with no commitment.

The body of Christ, the church, needs more genuine mentors and mentees. We need Paul’s giving their lives to Timothy’s to ensure another generation will continue with the truth. I have had a few that took the time to invest in my life with great passion. Early on in my ministry life there were some who fed into me great passion for the ministry. God took some of them on to Glory early on. I would have loved to have had more investment in my life from them. I remember early in my call to ministry praying a prayer I had learned from my earliest mentor: “Lord, I may not make a great impact for you in this world, but please make me an impact on the life of one who will be.” If we would truly become mentors and encourage others to be truly mentored to become mentors, what a change the church would experience.

Merging Churches? Can We Really Do That?

This question seems to be the reaction I receive every time I bring up the idea of churches merging. I do not hear the same reaction when I bring up the subject of churches splitting or closing their doors. What does the unchurched in the community think when they see churches fight and split, only to start or join another church around the corner? What do they think when they see another decaying church building because it closed its doors? The usual discussion turns to opinions of what someone else did that was wrong leading to what that person would have done differently to solve all the problems. The reality I have known in nearly three decades of ministry is that the root issue is the same everywhere and the solution to all the problems is still found in scripture. What happens is that people fail to see the root issue and, therefore, never find the solution in scripture.  

The extent of no churches in your area or churches on every other corner is often determined based on where you live in the country. Areas of our country that lack churches in their towns and cities can trace back to whether there ever was a church there or if the church or churches died long ago. For those of us who have lived most of our lives in the “Bible Belt,” we do not always comprehend that there are towns and cities here in the United States that have no churches. Most churches I know have little to no money designated to plant churches here in the USA. Truth be told, they refuse to bring on “missionaries” who stay in the states. They make statements like “missions is for other countries” or “we don’t need any more churches here in the USA.” Yet, these same people become angry at their church, leave, and start a new church around the corner so they can have church their way.

Through years of ministry, I have uncovered a phenomenon of church growth and decline. I have learned that the community of churches in an area goes through growth and decline in a cyclical fashion. While one church is in decline another church in the same area sees numerical growth. Over time, these churches seem to flip roles. These ebbs and flows show a consistent, curious statistic. If we look at the total number attending all the churches in the area going back 30 years, 20 years, 10 years, and the total number now, we note a net loss of church members. We found that every time there was a “church split” there was a net loss of members for the overall community. We all know churches have lived and grown off the back of other church’s members. The old pew hopping routine was in full swing. Many walk away from church altogether. Now, we have multiple churches near each other who are struggling to stay alive. Why, then, not merge?

I want to help us see God’s vision of the church. Churches say they want a New Testament church like the early church. They have even ensured the church name is connected to the early church to represent themselves as a true biblical, New Testament church. When we look at the early church, we see that almost nothing of what we are today looks like the early church. The Jews had synagogues that the early church availed themselves for use as a meeting place when possible, but they did not have a place of their own. Instead of buying or building a large meeting place, the early church met in houses. This is not to say that having a building today and not meeting in houses is unbiblical. It simply means that the early church had no concept or, in many cases, ability to have such a place.

The Bible describes the early church as “the church of Jerusalem,” “the church of Antioch,” “the church of….” Although they met in different houses, what we learn is that all believers in a local area were considered all one church. They always saw themselves as one church meeting in many houses. We do not need to duplicate this model. They had no choice; we do. We meet today in what some call “the house of God” or “house of worship.” Could it not still be said that all those who live in proximity, who hold to the truth of the scriptures on salvation are not all in the same local church but meeting in different houses? (At this time, I am prepared for the loud and long critics to wax eloquent on the reasons this is not true.)

“The church on the other side of the street doesn’t agree with us on important issues like which hymn book to use or, worse yet, they do not use a hymn book.” “The church on the other corner doesn’t even have a Sunday night service.” “The church on the next block doesn’t have Sunday school they have…life classes.” How could we ever fellowship with those places when they are obviously wrong in Bible teaching?

The truth is that if a person is biblically saved, is meeting with others in a local body or church who are biblically saved and is reaching others with the true Bible salvation message, then they are a part of the body of Christ. Therefore, the early church would have considered them a part of the entire local body or church. Over the last 2000 years there are those who call themselves churches but have completely turned from the truth of scripture and are not the true church. I am not speaking of them but of those who at least claim to believe the exact same truth of the gospel.

What has separated us is preferences of practice (methods) not principles of pure doctrine. The cause of most “church splits” is over preferences, not principles. If we then have two churches near each other to say they believe the same truth of scripture and both are struggling to keep the doors open, then why have they not merged? Usually because the members, including pastors, want to continue doing what they have always been doing expecting to change the results.

Often members of a congregation have established leaders, practices, and traditions that, in their words, cannot change. “This is our church. We will never move.” “They don’t do things the way we do.” “I know those people over at that other church. You should hear what I know.” “They are going liberal over there.” “They are strict to the point of legalism.” “I don’t like their music.” “I left there years ago because I didn’t like the way the pastor was leading the church.” These statements go on and on.

The bottom line is that churches do not merge because of pride. (Read that again.)

Churches are splitting. Churches are closing. The lost are dying and going to hell while we keep our four tiny churches on each corner alive on life support. As Bible believers and born-again followers of Christ, we need to take a serious look at what is happening around us.

Do we truly believe what we say we believe? In any community I can find two or more churches whose doctrinal statements, though phrasing may be different, are completely identical in beliefs. Yet, somehow, these churches cannot fellowship or work together. Too often they are churches with a history of beginning after splitting with the other church. They did not split on doctrine as their statements show they believe the exact same thing. They split over preferences that more than likely do not even pertain to today.

Some suppose that it may not be God’s will for churches to merge. It is God who established the church and called it a body. In 1 Corinthians 12 we see that God put the body together complete with all the parts desiring no part be missing. It is never God’s will for a section of the body to act independently from the entire body expecting to do the task of a whole body. Churches are limping on one leg, or trying to serve with no arms, or asking questions but unable to hear because there are no ears. Unfortunately, many church bodies are being kept alive by artificial means hoping no one pulls the plug. It is absolutely God’s will for churches to merge if for no other reason than that they are already biblically supposed to be a part of the whole local church body God intended it to be. We have parts of bodies spread-out all over town. We need the Great Physician to perform grafting surgery to heal the body.

Instead of letting another church die or splitting another church, I propose that churches consider regrouping, rebuilding, then replanting.

What happens when you close one church location to join another church? Don’t you lose ground on reaching the area where the first church was? Assuming you are not talking about churches that are across the street from one another, this is a legitimate question. This is why churches must regroup, rebuild, then replant. The ultimate goal is to replant. If the church doesn’t regroup and rebuild, it will die; thus, the potential for a replant is next to zero.

Churches need to regroup. Again, this is not grouping up with those who do not believe in the fundamental doctrines of scripture, but with those who state clearly that they believe just as we do. Regrouping is illustrated from a military view as shoring up the battle lines. There is no doubt we are in spiritual warfare. What we continue to do is go into the battle with armor off and half the body gone. I believe there comes a point where some church groups are no longer engaged in the battle but are merely meeting weekly because that is what they have always done. When you have multiple groups in an area doing the same thing, the enemy wins. Church members and, even pastors, need to recognize this, put away pride, and seek to regroup.

Regrouping is probably the most difficult of the three steps. Regrouping takes the churches down a long road to merging. After nearly 30 years in ministry, we have developed a process to help churches do just that. I commonly refer to it as the long steps to reach the spot where you ask the 1000 questions to be answered to bring two churches together. The first step is recognizing it is God’s will to do so. Then, they (leaders and congregation alike) must lay aside pride and seek wisdom on God’s leading in leadership responsibility. The pastor of a church is the one who will stand before God and answer for what the church has done. No one else in the church will ever stand before God and answer for the church, except for defying the God-given authority of the man of God holding that role.

If more than one pastor is involved, who will be the pastor? If we look back at the early church as our model of God’s plan, we find that there were multiple Elders or Pastors in a local body. If you will, we do the same today, we just don’t recognize it as such. There are churches all over your town who believe exactly as you do, and they all have a Pastor/Elder. The local church has a plurality of elders. How then is it, unlike the early church that worked together and had all things in common, that today we do not work together? Why is it today that two local groups struggling to stay alive cannot come together to regroup under one roof instead of struggling under two roofs? Step one is to regroup.

Step two is to rebuild. I do not mean rebuild a building or buildings. I do not mean join large numbers to build bigger buildings. Rebuilding does mean that the people will need to choose one location in which to meet. The realization of this choice usually brings about the result of not doing step one of regrouping. If the churches will allow the process to work in step one this will not be an issue in step two. Too many churches have spent more time building the local church with more classes, more programs, and more buildings and failed to train and send. Hoarding members, building bigger ministries leads to the death of a church.

I propose rebuilding the lives of the members thus strengthening and rebuilding a healthy body. Two dying congregations coming together is vital to the health of the whole body. It is the assembling of the body that allows for edification/encouragement. At this step there must be an extensive amount of time emphasizing the spiritual health of the people. Rebuilding the foundations of doctrine provides the foundational truths for stability of the congregation.

Healing is needed as the leadership and members have exhausted themselves holding a church together. Merging is not a quick fix to all problems. Taking the time to heal during the rebuilding process cannot be passed over. Status quo cannot be the play of the day. Long standing programs and schedules need to be paused. Spiritual help and growth of the people is the priority. How long this takes is unknown based upon many things. Regardless of how long it takes, rebuilding the people cannot be overlooked.

Once there is a strong foundation of the body, the church can begin to rebuild and restore broken relationships and fellowships over past wrongs. The church must make right the wrongs of the past and rebuild relationships with those who left church completely. Identify those who have been hurt by the near death of the churches to help bring them back to the flock. Avoid and guard against rebuilding this newly merged church through emptying the pews of another; this is what started this near death to begin with.

As the church rebuilds its own spiritual walks and rebuilds the broken pieces from the past, it will need to rebuild its outreach. The church needs to emphasize reaching the lost and the unchurched. During the rebuilding process the church is creating disciples who will fulfill the commission to go. Classes, services, programs, and activities should all be geared to training members to be prepared to go. But not everyone can go. There is a biblical principle of financial giving so that others can go which is where most churches end in their sending. However, if a church sends no one from their own church family then that church is failing to follow the commission of God and eventually leads to the death of the church. The rebuilding of the church is for only one purpose and that is to go or to replant.

Replanting, the third and final step, can be a way in which a called-out group can go back into the neighborhood of one of the previous churches to become a new work reaching the lost and unchurched of that area, assuming again the original church was not across the street. The focus is that a growing church sends out of its congregation to reach out to “Jerusalem,” “Judea,” “Samaria,” and the uttermost part of the earth. Failure to do this causes the death of the church.

Imagine, instead of churches dying in your community or churches splitting, churches began regrouping, rebuilding, and replanting. Imagine a community where the local church body is united for the cause of Christ. Imagine, if with this church unity in the community, the ongoing church hopping became a thing of the past. What if we were able to strengthen our “Jerusalem” and send disciples to all the other areas?

Merging churches not only can be done, it should be done. Merging churches should begin before another church closes or splits.

What’s the Difference? Advisor, Coach, Consultant, Mentor

Solomon said in Ecclesiastes there is nothing new under the sun; life is full of cycles. It is amazing when each generation feels they have discovered something new and exciting. Occasionally, an older generation watches a trend come back around and chuckles at the younger generation’s excitement of what they discovered only for them to find out it is not new. In our present day of electronic media, the younger crowd is often disappointed when they find out their favorite television show or movie is a remake from just a few decades ago. Or the song they hear on a commercial or theme to their favorite show or movie was written when their grandparents were their age.

This “everything old is new again” idea also affects our churches. Today you can find videos and online articles sharing the latest and best new ideas for ministry. There has been a renewed interest in discipleship in the church with an increased interest in focusing on those in ministry. The emphasis of being a Barnabas to Paul and a Paul to Timothy while encouraging Timothy to teach others is the “new” thing in ministry leadership. Words like mentoring, coaching, consulting, and advising are found everywhere. This is not a new idea, but if not understood from a true biblical perspective, it can be done to the detriment of the church.

Worldly philosophy is penetrating our churches at a record pace. Understanding what is needed to truly disciple not only church members but also to build those in the ministry is needed today just as it always has been. If you look up the words mentor, coach, consultant, and advisor you will find that they are all synonyms. However, there are specific nuances to each word that one must understand in order to see the differences. Having a clear understanding of the differences of each word and using them in discipleship can really be the new/old invention you are looking for to transform your ministry.

Advisor: One with knowledge sharing with another. They ask questions for understanding.

Wanting to ensure a new generation is well-trained and equipped for the ministry, those who are experienced often give advice to the younger or less experienced. Advice is important when helping someone facing a specific ministry issue. The nuance for advice is that the person receiving the advice decides whether to follow it or not. In order to disciple the next generation, we do need to give advice, but we need to be prepared and not be surprised when they do not follow it. Sometimes, someone simply will not learn unless it is from experience. This may be why so many give up on the young ones and blame them for not listening. If Barnabas was there simply to give Paul advice, he would have quit early. Barnabas encouraged Paul for years before Paul began having a great impact on the world. If Paul only advised Timothy, Paul would not have spoken with confidence in his last instructions to Timothy prior to his own finishing the course. Helping the next generation, while fulfilling the commission given by Christ, is not a short-term project.

Coach: Developing the skills and abilities that another possesses. They ask questions so they can know the one being coached knows the answer.

Some look at helping the younger generation and those less experienced as being a coach to them. Coaching seems easy from the bleachers. After a play or a game, outsiders pontificate of what they would have done and often criticize the coach and the player. However, coaching is more difficult than you know. What makes a good coach? A coach does not need to possess expertise in all aspects of the game. A coach does not even need to have the skills and abilities to do what they are coaching someone else to do. To play the game of golf on the professional level, you must be in top physical and mental condition. A golfer must have a consistent swing, which includes a consistent body stance and movement. Those who master all the needed elements become world renown and make a lot of money. Do these skills come naturally? Basic skills? Maybe. However, to develop those skills to greatness it takes a good coach. A coach helps the athlete to develop behaviors that will achieve the desired results.

If we are going to disciple the next generation of leaders, we need to learn to coach. We need to observe behaviors that need to change to obtain the desired results. Coaching encourages the person to see negative behaviors causing issues and show them the changes needed to achieve the desired results. If a golfer wants to consistently hit the golf ball centered down the fairway 250 yards away, then the behaviors of the stance, swing, and club must all be correct every time they hit the ball. As a coach, yelling at them for doing it wrong or giving advice on how to do better will not work. A coach must help the player identify and address each behavior causing the wrong result and help the person change the behaviors keeping them from the desired result. Even if the person hits the ball one time 250 yards in the fairway it does not mean the coach can stop coaching. The desired outcome is consistency. As coaches in ministry we are not giving advice, we are investing our time and wisdom to help develop the gifts and abilities God has given those we are to help. This is a long-term, on-going process. However, coaches do not dictate actions, or demand compliance.

Consultant: One having the expertise telling the another what to do. They ask questions to determine the willingness of the one to listen and do what they have been told.

From time to time we may be called on to consult with a person or ministry. People often confuse coaching and consulting. These two are mutually exclusive to each other; they are not the same or simultaneous in action. Coaching directs one to a specific behavior to see a desired outcome. Consulting points out inefficiencies or inconsistencies and provides clear direction as to the task ahead. Consulting demands experience in the field in which they are declaring changes to be made. There are areas I would qualify as a consultant and there are areas I would not. Simply having some experience in an area does not qualify someone to be a consultant. A consultant in ministry could only truly consult on areas in which they are trained, experienced, and fluent. A coach is one who can diagnose the behaviors needed to do the task, develop the person’s skills by being their accountability to the task, while discussing or debriefing others on how they are doing in reaching those goals.

Mentor: One with wisdom sharing their life to another to add wisdom to the mentee. They ask questions to go deep into the life and heart of the person to bring growth of life.

I can give advice that you can take or leave. I can coach by taking the time to encourage you to do what is needed to accomplish the task. In some areas, I can consult with pinpoint accuracy as to what needs to be done to resolve an issue. However, if I am going to be the one who is biblically discipling, then I need to mentor those who are coming behind me. Mentoring may include giving advice, coaching, and consulting but it requires a level high above these three areas. The dictionary definition of mentoring is the act of advising or training another, especially a younger colleague. When you look further into the definition, as used in the business world, we find that there is the added part of establishing a long-term personal relationship. Mentoring involves a long-term commitment by both parties to see a desired outcome. This outcome is not merely in one area of need or level of learning.

This outcome is in the full and complete level of life. Paul mentored Timothy until his (Paul’s) death. The desire of Paul was that Timothy would do the same for someone else. The mentor relationship allows for deep penetrating involvement in another’s life. This requires that the mentor be equipped to take on the intense involvement in the life of another. All the mentee’s life struggles become yours. All their deep burdens become yours. This is when the full understanding of the scriptures of weeping with those who weep and rejoicing with those who rejoice come into play. This relationship requires that the mentee allow a mentor to become deeply involved in their lives. To be in a mentor to mentee relationship requires commitment. The commitment includes complete openness to accountability. There is a commitment of time, energy, and a passion to see the desired outcome completed. Both must be committed to this with no reservations for a true mentorship to work.

A mentor from time to time may give advice, which means they acknowledge that the mentee has the option to take or leave the advice. A mentor may do some coaching to help correct certain behaviors in order to achieve desired results. A mentor may have expertise in a specific area to consult on what you are doing wrong and make the corrections. But, if they are going to be a mentor, they will be passionate on seeing the mentee finish the task. The mentee will see all of these helps coming from someone who is as passionate about every aspect of their lives as they are. If being mentored is more than you are looking for then continue to simply seek advice from time to time or find someone’s input on what you are doing wrong or look for someone to tell you what to do with no commitment.  

The body of Christ, the church, needs more genuine mentors and mentees. We need Paul’s giving their lives to Timothy’s to ensure another generation will continue with the truth. I have had a few that took the time to invest in my life with great passion. Early on in my ministry life there were some who fed into me great passion for the ministry. God took some of them on to Glory early on. I would have loved to have had more investment in my life from them. I remember early in my call to ministry praying a prayer I had learned from my earliest mentor: “Lord, I may not make a great impact for you in this world, but please make me an impact on the life of one who will be.” If we would truly become mentors and encourage others to be truly mentored to become mentors, what a change the church would experience.

Why is the Church Bothered By Same Sex Marriage and Ministers?

The question needs to be asked: why is the church bothered by the marriage of same sex couples? Why is the church so upset about this issue? Do I have your attention yet?

In recent days the United Methodist Church denomination voted to take the stand of one woman and one man as a definition of marriage. They voted to not do weddings for same sex marriage and will not ordain homosexuals into the offices in ministry. I am reposting a blog I wrote over a year ago.

Many things have been said and written in the last number of days and weeks on this subject. One can only help but wonder how it is that we find ourselves addressing this issue now.
I can recall as a child some preachers saying that in our lifetime we will face this issue straight on, while others laughed and scorned them for saying it. Now that we are here facing this issue, some are asking how could this happen. Others are trying to understand what is actually happening. Some in churches are even asking if it really is that big of a deal? Wide ranges of emotions are being expressed on all sides. Anger on both sides of the issue seems to be prevalent throughout the internet world. Those who believe they have won a great victory express glee and excitement. Those who feel as if they have lost a great battle exhibit sadness and depression. Defining marriage may sound simple and easy. On one side, it is one man and one woman. From the other side, it is for any who love and care for each other and want equal treatment as anyone else.
Where does the Bible-believing church truly need to stand on this issue? Preaching louder and longer repeating the “marriage is one man and one woman” mantra is not the answer to this question. This is part of the reason we got into this mess to begin with. The Bible truth is that marriage was created by God from the beginning to be one man and one woman for life. Any deviation from this is a violation of God’s plan for life. This message has continued to be preached but just preaching it doesn’t seem to have stopped what has happened. Some feel that we must just preach harder and louder. Some feel that we just need to get almost to the level of an argument to convince the other side that they are wrong. I have seen in the past weeks people grasping and grabbing at any and everything they can do to cope or deal with this issue.
Where did we go wrong? What can we do to fix it?
10 Bad Marriage Advices that led us to this point:
1. Marriage is 50/50
This advice has been used for a long time. Each give half of the whole of marriage making the marriage complete and whole. The problem is that if one or the other or both don’t do their half this doesn’t work. However, the idea of this is that if each does, then the marriage will work. This is no guarantee.
2. Marriage is 100/100
This advice was developed to address the previous advice that half of a marriage is not enough. Each one must give 100% effort in every aspect of the marriage. The problem is again that if one does not give 100% the marriage will not work. The advice requires each person to at all time give 100%.
3. Marriage is learning to compromise
This advice helps each person to not be harsh on areas of thoughts or actions. Everyone needs to learn to be tolerant of each other’s beliefs and compromise as needed to make the marriage work. This could require a person who is dealing with an absolute truth, to abandon that truth for the sake of compromise. Again, a must-do of each person or this advice will not work.
4. Marriage is learning to live with each other’s differences
Each person is different in so many ways. No two people are alike. Acknowledging others’ way of life is vital to working together as one. The problems are many. For example, if the differences are regarding Biblical doctrine, then simply understanding their differences won’t help.
5. A good marriage is learning to respect the other.
To respect: show honor and esteem for one or another. If the advice is to respect the other, then we are to place them higher. If both are doing this, what does this mean? Is there a race to the top for the other person? The problem is that someone is going to fail.
6. A good marriage is putting into it what you want to get out of it.
Someone approaching marriage should not go into it expecting all their needs being met with a high demand of results. The advice is to put effort into the marriage because you should not expect more out of marriage just by showing up.
7. A good marriage is giving to the other everything and getting the same in return.
This is advice is often given from an outsider of the relationship to both people at same time. Both are to give to the other everything they need. Who determines what the other needs and who determines if everything has been given? That is a problem.
8. A good marriage is one that never considers divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other!
Great advice so it seems. Just make a decision to never divorce. No matter what you must realize that life and people are not perfect; therefore, staying married is simply the act of staying married. The problem is that both would always have to agree to this and live a life from the negative viewpoint.
9. A good marriage is knowing no one is perfect.
Again the advice is just knowing no one is perfect is enough to be perfect so just live with this and move on. The problem, again, is that it takes two to follow this and creates a negative outlook on life.
10. A good marriage is serving one another.
Advice to simply forget yourself and serve the other. Meet needs and desires not thinking of one’s own needs or desires. Being selfless and giving is the key. The problem: it takes two.
Why are these all truly bad advice on marriage? There are some good things in this list. We know no one is perfect so these are just the best we can do. All of these bits of advice I found in multiple places by multiple sources in books, websites, and blogs listed as Biblical Christian advice for marriage. Yes, in most every one there were mentions of marriage being “one man” and “one woman.” Each assume that the advice they are giving is going to this type of marriage. A number of these quotes of advice were given in premarital counselling material.

What has all this to do with problems with same sex marriage? Just this: we as a church fell right in line with the agenda that we are now angry about. We have taught for at least one generation, if not two, the wrong definition of marriage. I know some will argue with me right now by posting sermon after sermon where preachers and the churches taught “one man” and “one woman” is God’s only way. You will show messages showing that God ordained marriage right from the start with Adam and Eve. God established the home and it is the only way God wants it. There are even messages that preached God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. I know there are messages showing that God will not have a same sex marriage due to all the verses condemning the physical acts of sex between two men and two woman. We all know the Bible teaches that sex is only right when in the confines of marriage. The circular reasoning concludes the argument against same sex marriage. If we have preached all this repeatedly, why is it we still ended up here with same sex marriage now legal in the United States of America? There may be a small group who will begin to accuse the rest of the Church for not truly standing strong on these Biblical truths. They will use words like liberal, apostate, and any other defining of those not standing firm on the truth.
I believe the fault clearly falls into the lap of us who truly believe the truth of God’s Word. All of the above advice has been given and all the messages were preached, but we have left out the most vital part of God’s design for marriage. Let us get the whole picture to define marriage before we attack others for theirs, especially if both are wrong.
We need more than ever to define marriage God’s way.
6 Things That Define Marriage:
1. One man, one woman.
This is the part we got right and need not back down from. God created male and female thus establishing the home and marriage. In spite of historical data that many in the Bible did not follow this model and had many wives and husbands, the establishment of the home as one man and women is God’s plan from the beginning. One of the purposes for this union of man and woman is for having children. We will see the others.
Genesis 1:27-28, So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
1. God made woman for man to be the completion of a whole.
God made man and woman to complete each other for the full purpose of God’s plan for life, (not that God requires all to be married).
The woman, being the “help meet for him,” is clearly defined as the one who stands alongside to enhance and bring in front to be seen by all. The union of the woman and man is to be a clear picture for all to see. They are to see the Lord.
The one flesh is a physical act, but it is also a representation of one in unity with God for all the world to see.
It is vital then for a man and a woman to be one for the Lord to leave others, specifically fathers and mothers. Marriage is not a group effort, but two as one for the Lord.
Genesis 2:18, And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:21-24, And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
1. Marriage is a union that God puts together for the purpose of demonstrating a much bigger Biblical principle of God’s love and salvation.
This salvation is secure and eternal. This salvation is solely from God’s love by His Grace.
God loves us more than anything thing else and gave Himself for us.
The relationship of a husband and wife is that of the church and Christ.
Vital to this truth of marriage and the relationship with Christ is this: one is submitted to the authority of the other.
Matthew 19:4-6, And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Ephesians 5:28-32, So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
1. Marriage is the woman submitting to the husband.
The church began to fail in this truth, which gave way to the issue we are facing today. Marriage is not equal, 50/50, 100/100 or any of those other advice ideas.
Marriage is a wife submitting to the authority of the husband and the husband being the head of the wife. This is where we as a church run from. The Bible never teaches that the women is a second class person, that she is subservient to man in her creation or being. She was created as an equal part of a whole that was given a vital role in the relationship. If this role is not completed then the marriage will not work. Just as vital the role of the husband is vital or the marriage will not work.
The curse given to woman was not that she was to have this role; it was her role from the moment of creation. The curse was that she was going to have a fleshly desire to rebel and want the authority that was her husbands.
Genesis 5:1-2, This is the book of the generations of Adam. In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him; 2 Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.
Genesis 3:16, Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
1 Timothy 2:9-13, In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
1. Marriage is the husband taking total 100% responsibility for the entire home.
The husband is to take the full responsibility for all that the wife does or says. God acknowledges this truth. He even defers to the husband in regards to any decision he makes in the marriage relationship.
If the woman makes a vow to God and the husband hears it, he can take that vow away and God will forgive her for it.
The below passage shows how the woman was submissive to her father before marriage, then to her husband after marriage. Notice the plan of authorities God has placed in the home.
Notice that at the end of this passage, a widow is submissive directly to the Lord, as she is no longer submitted to a father or a husband. This passage also refers to a divorced wife being on her own, but to be directly answerable to the God.
Numbers 30:2-9, If a man vow a vow unto the LORD, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceedeth out of his mouth. 3 If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth; 4 And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. 5 But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. 6 And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul; 7 And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. 8 But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her. 9 But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.
1. Marriage is both men and women knowing their God-given role and being obedient to it.
Colossians 7:34, There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
Ephesians 5:22-26, Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
If we define marriage correctly and preach it that way we will address the issue we are facing today. Let us get very practical. It is not about just shouting one man and one woman only, or telling people who commit sexual acts that the Bible condemns as the end of the argument. If we follow the advice from the first list above, the same sex marriage crowd can take the same advice and keep their same sex couples together as well as any one man and woman couple.
It is about God-given roles. We as a church have been avoiding the Biblical truth of roles in marriage because we became afraid of the world’s pressure to “be equal.” Our flesh is always wanting to rebel against any authorities in our life. This is why we are in the trouble we are in.
The Church did not teach and stand correctly on this issue for a long time. Again, let us get practical. Since the Bible teaches marriage as roles of males and females and those roles are not interchangeable, how can a same sex couple get “married?” Which one is going to submit to the other? Which one is going to take full responsibility of the family? How are they going to follow God’s plan as being “one” in order to demonstrate our relationship as a church with Christ. Where in Scripture do we find that God put together two of the same sex together to meet the requirements of a marriage? How does a marriage between two men or two woman follow God’s plan for completing? God made a woman to complete a man. Nowhere does Scripture show God creating man for a man or woman for a woman.
If we follow God and take His creation of one man and one woman, who He made to complete each other and place each in a preset role, blessing each as they follow their roles, we then have marriage.
If we stick to the marriage advice given in the beginning of the article any two people can follow them and stay together till death do them part. This is not marriage. Marriage is not any two people who live together till one dies. The Church in many denominations are facing this difficulty because we failed to define marriage correctly.
No one can redefine marriage away from God’s definition.

Are You Playing Church?

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Are you playing church? This is a theme I have heard preached my whole life. When I would hear this message, I would think to myself: Am I serious about what I am doing? As long as the answer came back that I was dead serious about it, then I was okay.

As a child, I played many board games – Monopoly, Sorry, checkers, chess, the game of Life. I remember that these games were played with the utmost of seriousness, at least in our family that was true. Landing on Boardwalk and Park Place with hotels on it became real serious. Having a stack of Monopoly money was the end all beat all in seriousness. Knocking someone out and saying “Sorry” was all the excitement. What was greater than winning the Game of Life by beating everyone else to Millionaire Acres? Winning was everything.

But as I grew up, I learned that Monopoly money won’t work in the store. Life is not about winning at the expense of everyone else losing. Being serious about church and ministry is no guarantee that you are not playing church.

Stop what you are doing and look around.

Are you in competition with others in a race to be the most spiritual?

Do you see yourself ahead of others in the Christian walk? Do you become upset when someone else gets their way in church and you don’t? Do you see yourself as being rich in goods and in need of nothing? Do you and your church have great facilities and programs with something for everyone?

Be careful. You might just be playing church, believing you are winning at church.

Revelation 3:17 Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked:

Bad Marriage Advice vs Good Marriage Advice

The question needs to be asked: why is the church bothered by the marriage of same sex couples? Why is the church so upset about this issue? Do I have your attention yet? Many things have been said and written in the last number of days and weeks on this subject. One can only help but wonder how it is that we find ourselves addressing this issue now.

I can recall as a child some preachers saying that in our lifetime we will face this issue straight on, while others laughed and scorned them for saying it. Now that we are here facing this issue, some are asking how could this happen. Others are trying to understand what is actually happening. Some in churches are even asking if it really is that big of a deal? Wide ranges of emotions are being expressed on all sides. Anger on both sides of the issue seems to be prevalent throughout the internet world. Those who believe they have won a great victory express glee and excitement. Those who feel as if they have lost a great battle exhibit sadness and depression. Defining marriage may sound simple and easy. On one side, it is one man and one woman. From the other side, it is for any who love and care for each other and want equal treatment as anyone else.

Where does the Bible-believing church truly need to stand on this issue? Preaching louder and longer repeating the “marriage is one man and one woman” mantra is not the answer to this question. This is part of the reason we got into this mess to begin with. The Bible truth is that marriage was created by God from the beginning to be one man and one woman for life. Any deviation from this is a violation of God’s plan for life. This message has continued to be preached but just preaching it doesn’t seem to have stopped what has happened. Some feel that we must just preach harder and louder. Some feel that we just need to get almost to the level of an argument to convince the other side that they are wrong. I have seen in the past weeks people grasping and grabbing at any and everything they can do to cope or deal with this issue.

Where did we go wrong? What can we do to fix it?

10 Bad Marriage Advices that led us to this point:

  1. Marriage is 50/50

This advice has been used for a long time. Each give half of the whole of marriage making the marriage complete and whole. The problem is that if one or the other or both don’t do their half this doesn’t work. However, the idea of this is that if each does, then the marriage will work.

  1. Marriage is 100/100

This advice was developed to address the previous advice that half of a marriage is not enough. Each one must give 100% effort in every aspect of the marriage. The problem is again that if one does not give 100% the marriage will not work. The advice requires each person to at all time give 100%.

  1. Marriage is learning to compromise

This advice helps each person to not be harsh on areas of thoughts or actions. Everyone needs to learn to be tolerant of each other’s beliefs and compromise as needed to make the marriage work. Again, a must-do of each person or this advice will not work.

  1. Marriage is learning to live with each other’s differences

Each person is different in so many ways. No two people are alike. Acknowledging others’ way of life is vital to working together as one. The problems are many. For example, if the differences are regarding Biblical doctrine, then simply understanding their differences won’t help.

  1. A good marriage is learning to respect the other.

To respect: show honor and esteem for one or another. If the advice is to respect the other, then we are to place them higher. If both are doing this, what does this mean? Is there a race to the top for the other person? The problem is that someone is going to fail.

  1. A good marriage is putting into it what you want to get out of it.

Someone approaching marriage should not go into it expecting all their needs being met with a high demand of results. The advice is to put effort into the marriage because you should not expect more out of marriage just by showing up.

  1. A good marriage is giving to the other everything and getting the same in return.

This is advice is often given from an outsider of the relationship to both people at same time. Both are to give to the other everything they need. Who determines what the other needs and who determines if everything has been given? That is a problem.

  1. A good marriage is one that never considers divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other!

Great advice so it seems. Just make a decision to never divorce. No matter what you must realize that life and people are not perfect; therefore, staying married is simply the act of staying married. The problem is that both would always have to agree to this and live a life from the negative viewpoint.

  1. A good marriage is knowing no one is perfect.

Again the advice is just knowing no one is perfect is enough to be perfect so just live with this and move on. The problem, again, is that it takes two to follow this and creates a negative outlook on life.

  1. A good marriage is serving one another.

Advice to simply forget yourself and serve the other. Meet needs and desires not thinking of one’s own needs or desires. Being selfless and giving is the key. The problem: it takes two.

Why are these all truly bad advice on marriage? There are some good things in this list. We know no one is perfect so these are just the best we can do. All of these bits of advice I found in multiple places by multiple sources in books, websites, and blogs listed as Biblical Christian advice for marriage. Yes, in most every one there were mentions of marriage being “one man” and “one woman.” Each assume that the advice they are giving is going to this type of marriage. A number of these quotes of advice were given in premarital counselling material.

What has all this to do with problems with same sex marriage? Just this: we as a church fell right in line with the agenda that we are now angry about. We have taught for at least one generation, if not two, the wrong definition of marriage. I know some will argue with me right now by posting sermon after sermon where preachers and the churches taught “one man” and “one woman” is God’s only way. You will show messages showing that God ordained marriage right from the start with Adam and Eve. God established the home and it is the only way God wants it. There are even messages that preached God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. I know there are messages showing that God will not have a same sex marriage due to all the verses condemning the physical acts of sex between two men and two woman. We all know the Bible teaches that sex is only right when in the confines of marriage. The circular reasoning concludes the argument against same sex marriage. If we have preached all this repeatedly, why is it we still ended up here with same sex marriage now legal in the United States of America? There may be a small group who will begin to accuse the rest of the Church for not truly standing strong on these Biblical truths. They will use words like liberal, apostate, and any other defining of those not standing firm on the truth.

I believe the fault clearly falls into the lap of us who truly believe the truth of God’s Word. All of the above advice has been given and all the messages were preached, but we have left out the most vital part of God’s design for marriage. Let us get the whole picture to define marriage before we attack others for theirs, especially if both are wrong.

We need more than ever to define marriage God’s way.

6 Things That Define Marriage:

  1. One man, one woman.

This is the part we got right and need not back down from. God created male and female thus establishing the home and marriage.

One of the purposes for this union of man and woman is for having children.

Genesis 1:27-28, So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

  1. God made woman for man to be the completion of a whole.

God made man and woman to complete each other for the full purpose of God’s plan for life, (not that God requires all to be married).

The woman, being the “help meet for him,” is clearly defined as the one who stands alongside to enhance and bring in front to be seen by all. The union of the woman and man is to be a clear picture for all to see. They are to see the Lord.

The one flesh is a physical act, but it is also a representation of one in unity with God for all the world to see.

It is vital then for a man and a woman to be one for the Lord to leave others, specifically fathers and mothers. Marriage is not a group effort, but two as one for the Lord.

Genesis 2:18, And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Genesis 2:21-24, And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

  1. Marriage is a union that God puts together for the purpose of demonstrating a much bigger Biblical principle of God’s love and salvation.

This salvation is secure and eternal. This salvation is solely from God’s love by His Grace.

God loves us more than anything thing else and gave Himself for us.

The relationship of a husband and wife is that of the church and Christ.

Vital to this truth of marriage and the relationship with Christ is this: one is submitted to the   authority of the other.

Matthew 19:4-6, And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Ephesians 5:28-32, So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

  1. Marriage is the woman submitting to the husband.

The church began to fail in this truth, which gave way to the issue we are facing today. Marriage is not equal, 50/50, 100/100 or any of those other advice ideas.

Marriage is a wife submitting to the authority of the husband and the husband being the head of the wife.

The curse given to woman was not that she was to have this role; it was her role from the moment of creation. The curse was that she was going to have a fleshly desire to rebel and want the authority that was her husbands.

Genesis 5:1-2, This is the book of the generations of Adam. In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him; 2 Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.

Genesis 3:16, Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

1 Timothy 2:9-13, In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.

  1. Marriage is the husband taking total 100% responsibility for the entire home.

The husband is to take the full responsibility for all that the wife does or says. God acknowledges this truth. He even defers to the husband in regards to any decision he makes in the marriage relationship.

If the woman makes a vow to God and the husband hears it, he can take that vow away and God will forgive her for it.

The below passage shows how the woman was submissive to her father before marriage, then to her husband after marriage. Notice the plan of authorities God has placed in the home.

Notice that at the end of this passage, a widow is submissive directly to the Lord, as she is no longer submitted to a father or a husband. This passage also refers to a divorced wife being on her own, but to be directly answerable to the God.

Numbers 30:2-9, If a man vow a vow unto the LORD, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceedeth out of his mouth. 3 If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth; 4 And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. 5 But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. 6 And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul; 7 And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. 8 But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her. 9 But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.

  1. Marriage is both men and women knowing their God-given role and being obedient to it.

Colossians 7:34, There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

Ephesians 5:22-26, Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

If we define marriage correctly and preach it that way we will address the issue we are facing today. Let us get very practical. It is not about just shouting one man and one woman only, or telling people who commit sexual acts that the Bible condemns as the end of the argument. If we follow the advice from the first list above, the same sex marriage crowd can take the same advice and keep their same sex couples together as well as any one man and woman couple.

It is about God-given roles. We as a church have been avoiding the Biblical truth of roles in marriage because we became afraid of the world’s pressure to “be equal.” Our flesh is always wanting to rebel against any authorities in our life. This is why we are in the trouble we are in.

The Church did not teach and stand correctly on this issue for a long time. Again, let us get practical. Since the Bible teaches marriage as roles of males and females and those roles are not interchangeable, how can a same sex couple get “married?” Which one is going to submit to the other? Which one is going to take full responsibility of the family? How are they going to follow God’s plan as being “one” in order to demonstrate our relationship as a church with Christ. Where in Scripture do we find that God put together two of the same sex together to meet the requirements of a marriage? How does a marriage between two men or two woman follow God’s plan for completing? God made a woman to complete a man. Nowhere does Scripture show God creating man for a man or woman for a woman.

If we follow God and take His creation of one man and one woman, who He made to complete each other and place each in a preset role, blessing each as they follow their roles, we then have marriage.

No one can redefine marriage away from God’s definition.

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The question needs to be asked: why is the church bothered by the marriage of same sex couples? Why is the church so upset about this issue? Do I have your attention yet? Many things have been said and written in the last number of days and weeks on this subject. One can only help but wonder how it is that we find ourselves addressing this issue now.

I can recall as a child some preachers saying that in our lifetime we will face this issue straight on, while others laughed and scorned them for saying it. Now that we are here facing this issue, some are asking how could this happen. Others are trying to understand what is actually happening. Some in churches are even asking if it really is that big of a deal? Wide ranges of emotions are being expressed on all sides. Anger on both sides of the issue seems to be prevalent throughout the internet world. Those who believe they have won a great victory express glee and excitement. Those who feel as if they have lost a great battle exhibit sadness and depression. Defining marriage may sound simple and easy. On one side, it is one man and one woman. From the other side, it is for any who love and care for each other and want equal treatment as anyone else.

Where does the Bible-believing church truly need to stand on this issue? Preaching louder and longer repeating the “marriage is one man and one woman” mantra is not the answer to this question. This is part of the reason we got into this mess to begin with. The Bible truth is that marriage was created by God from the beginning to be one man and one woman for life. Any deviation from this is a violation of God’s plan for life. This message has continued to be preached but just preaching it doesn’t seem to have stopped what has happened. Some feel that we must just preach harder and louder. Some feel that we just need to get almost to the level of an argument to convince the other side that they are wrong. I have seen in the past weeks people grasping and grabbing at any and everything they can do to cope or deal with this issue.

Where did we go wrong? What can we do to fix it?

10 Bad Marriage Advices that led us to this point:

  1. Marriage is 50/50

This advice has been used for a long time. Each give half of the whole of marriage making the marriage complete and whole. The problem is that if one or the other or both don’t do their half this doesn’t work. However, the idea of this is that if each does, then the marriage will work.

  1. Marriage is 100/100

This advice was developed to address the previous advice that half of a marriage is not enough. Each one must give 100% effort in every aspect of the marriage. The problem is again that if one does not give 100% the marriage will not work. The advice requires each person to at all time give 100%.

  1. Marriage is learning to compromise

This advice helps each person to not be harsh on areas of thoughts or actions. Everyone needs to learn to be tolerant of each other’s beliefs and compromise as needed to make the marriage work. Again, a must-do of each person or this advice will not work.

  1. Marriage is learning to live with each other’s differences

Each person is different in so many ways. No two people are alike. Acknowledging others’ way of life is vital to working together as one. The problems are many. For example, if the differences are regarding Biblical doctrine, then simply understanding their differences won’t help.

  1. A good marriage is learning to respect the other.

To respect: show honor and esteem for one or another. If the advice is to respect the other, then we are to place them higher. If both are doing this, what does this mean? Is there a race to the top for the other person? The problem is that someone is going to fail.

  1. A good marriage is putting into it what you want to get out of it.

Someone approaching marriage should not go into it expecting all their needs being met with a high demand of results. The advice is to put effort into the marriage because you should not expect more out of marriage just by showing up.

  1. A good marriage is giving to the other everything and getting the same in return.

This is advice is often given from an outsider of the relationship to both people at same time. Both are to give to the other everything they need. Who determines what the other needs and who determines if everything has been given? That is a problem.

  1. A good marriage is one that never considers divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other!

Great advice so it seems. Just make a decision to never divorce. No matter what you must realize that life and people are not perfect; therefore, staying married is simply the act of staying married. The problem is that both would always have to agree to this and live a life from the negative viewpoint.

  1. A good marriage is knowing no one is perfect.

Again the advice is just knowing no one is perfect is enough to be perfect so just live with this and move on. The problem, again, is that it takes two to follow this and creates a negative outlook on life.

  1. A good marriage is serving one another.

Advice to simply forget yourself and serve the other. Meet needs and desires not thinking of one’s own needs or desires. Being selfless and giving is the key. The problem: it takes two.

Why are these all truly bad advice on marriage? There are some good things in this list. We know no one is perfect so these are just the best we can do. All of these bits of advice I found in multiple places by multiple sources in books, websites, and blogs listed as Biblical Christian advice for marriage. Yes, in most every one there were mentions of marriage being “one man” and “one woman.” Each assume that the advice they are giving is going to this type of marriage. A number of these quotes of advice were given in premarital counselling material.

What has all this to do with problems with same sex marriage? Just this: we as a church fell right in line with the agenda that we are now angry about. We have taught for at least one generation, if not two, the wrong definition of marriage. I know some will argue with me right now by posting sermon after sermon where preachers and the churches taught “one man” and “one woman” is God’s only way. You will show messages showing that God ordained marriage right from the start with Adam and Eve. God established the home and it is the only way God wants it. There are even messages that preached God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. I know there are messages showing that God will not have a same sex marriage due to all the verses condemning the physical acts of sex between two men and two woman. We all know the Bible teaches that sex is only right when in the confines of marriage. The circular reasoning concludes the argument against same sex marriage. If we have preached all this repeatedly, why is it we still ended up here with same sex marriage now legal in the United States of America? There may be a small group who will begin to accuse the rest of the Church for not truly standing strong on these Biblical truths. They will use words like liberal, apostate, and any other defining of those not standing firm on the truth.

I believe the fault clearly falls into the lap of us who truly believe the truth of God’s Word. All of the above advice has been given and all the messages were preached, but we have left out the most vital part of God’s design for marriage. Let us get the whole picture to define marriage before we attack others for theirs, especially if both are wrong.

We need more than ever to define marriage God’s way.

6 Things That Define Marriage:

  1. One man, one woman.

This is the part we got right and need not back down from. God created male and female thus establishing the home and marriage.

One of the purposes for this union of man and woman is for having children.

Genesis 1:27-28, So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

  1. God made woman for man to be the completion of a whole.

God made man and woman to complete each other for the full purpose of God’s plan for life, (not that God requires all to be married).

The woman, being the “help meet for him,” is clearly defined as the one who stands alongside to enhance and bring in front to be seen by all. The union of the woman and man is to be a clear picture for all to see. They are to see the Lord.

The one flesh is a physical act, but it is also a representation of one in unity with God for all the world to see.

It is vital then for a man and a woman to be one for the Lord to leave others, specifically fathers and mothers. Marriage is not a group effort, but two as one for the Lord.

Genesis 2:18, And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Genesis 2:21-24, And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

  1. Marriage is a union that God puts together for the purpose of demonstrating a much bigger Biblical principle of God’s love and salvation.

This salvation is secure and eternal. This salvation is solely from God’s love by His Grace.

God loves us more than anything thing else and gave Himself for us.

The relationship of a husband and wife is that of the church and Christ.

Vital to this truth of marriage and the relationship with Christ is this: one is submitted to the   authority of the other.

Matthew 19:4-6, And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Ephesians 5:28-32, So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

  1. Marriage is the woman submitting to the husband.

The church began to fail in this truth, which gave way to the issue we are facing today. Marriage is not equal, 50/50, 100/100 or any of those other advice ideas.

Marriage is a wife submitting to the authority of the husband and the husband being the head of the wife.

The curse given to woman was not that she was to have this role; it was her role from the moment of creation. The curse was that she was going to have a fleshly desire to rebel and want the authority that was her husbands.

Genesis 5:1-2, This is the book of the generations of Adam. In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him; 2 Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.

Genesis 3:16, Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

1 Timothy 2:9-13, In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.

  1. Marriage is the husband taking total 100% responsibility for the entire home.

The husband is to take the full responsibility for all that the wife does or says. God acknowledges this truth. He even defers to the husband in regards to any decision he makes in the marriage relationship.

If the woman makes a vow to God and the husband hears it, he can take that vow away and God will forgive her for it.

The below passage shows how the woman was submissive to her father before marriage, then to her husband after marriage. Notice the plan of authorities God has placed in the home.

Notice that at the end of this passage, a widow is submissive directly to the Lord, as she is no longer submitted to a father or a husband. This passage also refers to a divorced wife being on her own, but to be directly answerable to the God.

Numbers 30:2-9, If a man vow a vow unto the LORD, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceedeth out of his mouth. 3 If a woman also vow a vow unto the LORD, and bind herself by a bond, being in her father’s house in her youth; 4 And her father hear her vow, and her bond wherewith she hath bound her soul, and her father shall hold his peace at her: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she hath bound her soul shall stand. 5 But if her father disallow her in the day that he heareth; not any of her vows, or of her bonds wherewith she hath bound her soul, shall stand: and the LORD shall forgive her, because her father disallowed her. 6 And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul; 7 And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her in the day that he heard it: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. 8 But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard it; then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her. 9 But every vow of a widow, and of her that is divorced, wherewith they have bound their souls, shall stand against her.

  1. Marriage is both men and women knowing their God-given role and being obedient to it.

Colossians 7:34, There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

Ephesians 5:22-26, Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

If we define marriage correctly and preach it that way we will address the issue we are facing today. Let us get very practical. It is not about just shouting one man and one woman only, or telling people who commit sexual acts that the Bible condemns as the end of the argument. If we follow the advice from the first list above, the same sex marriage crowd can take the same advice and keep their same sex couples together as well as any one man and woman couple.

It is about God-given roles. We as a church have been avoiding the Biblical truth of roles in marriage because we became afraid of the world’s pressure to “be equal.” Our flesh is always wanting to rebel against any authorities in our life. This is why we are in the trouble we are in.

The Church did not teach and stand correctly on this issue for a long time. Again, let us get practical. Since the Bible teaches marriage as roles of males and females and those roles are not interchangeable, how can a same sex couple get “married?” Which one is going to submit to the other? Which one is going to take full responsibility of the family? How are they going to follow God’s plan as being “one” in order to demonstrate our relationship as a church with Christ. Where in Scripture do we find that God put together two of the same sex together to meet the requirements of a marriage? How does a marriage between two men or two woman follow God’s plan for completing? God made a woman to complete a man. Nowhere does Scripture show God creating man for a man or woman for a woman.

If we follow God and take His creation of one man and one woman, who He made to complete each other and place each in a preset role, blessing each as they follow their roles, we then have marriage.

No one can redefine marriage away from God’s definition.

 

Excited Ministry Grows

Encouraging the Church
Ministry Update

I am excited about the growth of the ministry this year.  As we begin 2018 we are upgrading our web site that will allow so much more than what we have seen in the past.  With addition of the Advance Ministry evaluations we can now offer through Ministry Imprints through access to this ministry.   Also with the growth of our publishing arm with the ability have our own store on our website now.  We are excited that we are now apart of the Christian Small Publishers Group.  Joining them will allow us to get our books out to areas we would never be able to reach.  We will also have access to publishing conferences and other venues to present our ministry. We now have the ability to post video and audio messages on our new web site.  We will soon be including training messages that your church and use to address needs with solutions to your church leaders.    There are pages that deal with issues from church leader needs, to women’s issues, children’s and teen ministries, and links to other ministries that may also help your ministry.  We are all about not re-inventing the wheel.  If someone out their is doing a great job we want you to know about it.  This year will also see an extended travel schedule to conferences and training meetings.  We are praying about new ways to reach more churches to help.  Follow our blogs as well as our web site churchhelps.org as we will be dealing with root issues oppressing our churches today.

Christmas Gifts That Last Longer Than A Day


Merry Christmas from Hold Fast The Truth Ministries.

christmas-giftGo to our web site  churchhelps.org   or our  web store to get the books we released this past year. Use christmashelps  at check out for your 20% discount.

In addition to these four books, we are releasing a smaller, carry-along edition of the Daily Bible Study book.  This edition has all the daily Biblical Principles and Practicals and verse references to look up for yourself. If you order before December 15,  you can receive the discount and guarantee arrival before Christmas.

PROMO COLLAGE_FIRST 4 BOOKSYou may also opt to purchase these books through Amazon and Kindle after December 15 and with added shipping costs to receive books by Christmas as well. Sorry, no discounts available.

You may also purchase each book from Amazon and Kindle from the links below:

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No Gossip Challenge

Gossip: Idle talk which foolishly or maliciously spreads rumors or facts. The effects of gossiping are divisive and destructive.[1]

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Matthew 12: 36-37, But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. 37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.[2]

Proverbs 20:19, He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets: Therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips.[3]

Proverbs 25:9-11, Debate thy cause with thy neighbour himself; And discover not a secret to another: Lest he that heareth it put thee to shame, And thine infamy turn not away. A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.[4]

We are issuing a “No Gossip Challenge” to churches, pastors, and individuals. There may be a debate as to what constitutes gossip. The above definition and verses provides a good start. Gossip is having a conversation with anyone where you talk about someone or something (i.e. a ministry) where that someone or something is not present. It does not matter if what is being said is true and accurate or not. If the person is not present during the conversation, then it is most likely gossip. We are instructed in Matthew 12 not to have idle words as there will be an accountability before God for these words. We are also instructed in Proverbs 20 to not to deal with or listen to those who would be talebearers. The hearer of gossip is just as guilty in the sin of gossip as the talebearer. In Proverbs 25, we are instructed to not bring anyone else in a conversation that has nothing to do with the conversation. We also learn in Proverbs 25 that words should be “fit,” that is, they “fit” the right thing. If the words we speak are not fitting right, then they should not be said.

The challenge is this:

For 10 days:

  1. Do not talk or listen to any conversation where the person or ministry is not present.
  2. Do not begin any conversation with statements such as: Did you hear…? I heard… Did you know…? Would you pray about a situation involving person or ministry name here? I am concerned about person or ministry name here. I can’t believe what person or ministry name here did.

Take the next ten days and make this a reality.

Remember, no conversation about someone or using their name without the person being in your presence.

We would love for you to then share what you have learned or any comments you may have. Come back and share in the comments on the blogs. Share your experience on Facebook on the Hold Fast the Ministry page or on your own page using #GossipChallenge.

We are up for the #GossipChallenge. Are you?

[1] Manser, M. H. (2009). Dictionary of Bible Themes: The Accessible and Comprehensive Tool for Topical Studies. London: Martin Manser.

[2] The Holy Bible: King James Version. (2009). (Electronic Edition of the 1900 Authorized Version., Mt 12:36–37). Bellingham, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.

[3] The Holy Bible: King James Version. (2009). (Electronic Edition of the 1900 Authorized Version., Pr 20:19). Bellingham, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.

[4] The Holy Bible: King James Version. (2009). (Electronic Edition of the 1900 Authorized Version., Pr 25:9–11). Bellingham, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.


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Dear Pastor,

I would like to get a copy of each of our books in your hands and in the hands of the members of your church.  I know that these books will be a blessing and help to you and your ministry.  I am making a way for you to purchase all four, including shipping, for $35.  I believe that once you see these books you will want to get these books in the hands of your people.  Following the links below will take you to the Amazon pages where the retail price is given.  By clicking here, you can pay $35 through our PayPal account in order to receive this special offer for all four books.  If you are interested in also having a Kindle version of the book, you can find them here as listed:  Biblical Principles and Practicals for Everyday,  The Business of Ministry, Prepared to Bless Biblical Principles for Being Prepared, and Prepared to Bless Practical Preparedness for the Home.

Biblical Principles and Practicals for Everyday is a daily Bible study that teaches absolute truths by going through the Bible starting in Genesis.  Day one begins with the beginning and proceeds 366 days to the book of Revelation. This devotional book can be started at any time; you don’t have to find what day it is on a calendar.  We have also included at reading plan that will help someone read through the Bible in 90 days or in one year. This book will help your people to know what they believe and why.

Some may call this a devotional book but that would depend on your definition of a devotional. What are we devoted to? Are we devoted to the tasks of reading the Scriptures and a lesson? Or, are we devoted to the person the Lord Jesus Christ? The idea of a devotional should be starting our day with the purpose of being devoted to the Lord Jesus Christ. What we read in the Scriptures should lead us to a day of devotion instead of treating the act of reading the Bible as the completion of doing our devotions. We need to be careful to not to check off our daily list of completing our devotions in the morning after reading. We can check off devotions from our list at the end of the day when our day was devoted to HIM. Most devotionals are so titled to give us verses to read then a story to teach us what the verses mean. This book is going to give verses and explanations of those verses. However, the intention of the daily process is much more. The intention for this book is to help lead you to green pastures with encouragement to eat, which will then require doing something with the truths. This book is to help teach the reader to also learn to receive the most out of the green pastures. This is not something you should rush through reading then check off your list of to do’s in your spiritual walk for today. “I read the page for the day. I am now ready to move on to the next spiritual thing to do on my list.” Each day you will begin with a biblical principle. A Biblical principle is an absolute truth from God that can never change. These principles are universal and eternal truths for all times. These truths are absolutes that never change based upon time, culture or fluctuation of opinion. All truth is God’s truth no matter if man tries to steal the credit for himself. If it is true, it was never about the man who presented it but the God who established it because of His perfect nature. A biblical principle is never someone’s view or opinion on Scripture. Best aspect of this book is that you can begin at any time of year! No dates included. Start on Day 1 at any time to study line upon line and precept upon precept. A daily Bible reading guide is also included each day to read through the Bible in a year using either a Genesis-Revelation plan or chronologically. A 90-day reading plan is also included in the first 90 days.

The Business of Ministry is designed to help the church leadership as well as the member in the pew to understand clearly the business of the ministry. The strength of any endeavor is in its foundation. The church should not be any exception. Starting a church should include a true biblical understanding of a church as well as organizing the business aspects of the church correctly. A church has a unique role in the world. It is first a ministry in that it ministers to the needs of its members and those outside the church by proclaiming the Gospel through preaching, teaching, and organizing various outreach efforts for and in the community. However, it is also a business. Churches must maintain the business of church or they may not have a church with which to minister. In this book, we examine the foundational documents that every church should have in order to protect themselves and their members. We discuss the differences between the legal and spiritual items necessary for a church to function. We then explore the areas where biblical principles need to be followed yet where there are many practical ways to function in the day to day business of the church without violating any biblical principles.

 

Prepared to Bless: Biblical Principles for Being Preparedness is designed to teach biblical principles Christians should do in meeting the needs of others. In the last several decades, we have watched as many disasters affected Christians around the world. Early on, only the extremely organized mainline denominations seemed to have a sense of what to do in the event of an emergency anywhere in the world. Plans were not previously in place to assist missionaries on the field, help churches in disaster zones or pass on information to other Christians so they would be able to help. Those that did have plans had difficulty with logistics and communicating information. However, over the years, as more and more tragedies have occurred, churches and Christian organizations have improved their action plans. Today, many mission boards have established plans for their missionaries to supply needs for the missionary and to those to whom they minister as well as plans to disseminate information to supporters. Yet, some still seem to not understand the importance of emergency preparedness. We believe it is because they do not understand the “why.” Written as a Bible study, this book explains the biblical principles behind emergency preparedness for those who seek to be the hands used of God in times of crisis.

Prepared to Bless: Practical Preparedness for the Home is written to give very practical help to families so they can be a blessing to others when difficulties come. The goal for this book is to bring to the attention of the reader, regardless of their religious or political beliefs, their opinions about society, or their views regarding end-times or “doomsday,” the importance of being prepared for an emergency for the benefit of their family and others. As I researched and studied, I became more resolved that several books had to be completed. God’s Word reveals a plan and many principles that we should and must follow. In Prepared to Bless: Biblical Principles for Preparedness, we examined Scripture to see not only principles but also examples of Bible heroes preparing for trials to come. It is not a lack of faith to prepare for a coming trial. We also saw that being prepared is a great blessing to our family, to our neighbors or to a stranger. In Prepared to Bless: Practical Preparedness for the Home, our goal is to help the reader determine and establish reasonable and attainable preparedness measures for themselves and their family. If you have watched any of the doomsday or prepping shows on television, then you have seen people depicted as focusing on one disaster or another. Our approach is not to focus on a specific event. Most preppers and survivalists agree that families should focus on self-reliance and general preparedness in the event of an emergency. We believe that there are basic preparedness principles and practices that can have a family prepared for a variety of disaster possibilities. There is not a “one size fits all” plan when it comes to preparedness measures. Each family has unique situations and family members for which they must prepare. We help the reader see the difference between basic, minimal, moderate, and extreme preparedness. Charts, lists, and product suggestions are included to help the reader better determine what they need and to what extent they want to prepare themselves and their family.

We do ask that you only use this deal for Pastors, Evangelists, Missionaries and also one set per ministry.  We also ask that the shipping address be the church or ministry address.  If you would like to order more at full price, you can either go to Amazon to pay full retail by clicking the links above or go to our web store at churchhelps.org by clicking here to order more copies for those in your church for a lower price.

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